6 Subtle Red Flags That Could Mean Your Relationship Is Doomed (4 of 4)

They Show Public Kindness and Private Cruelty

Being charming in public but dismissive in private is a huge red flag. If they are condescending or mean to you behind closed doors but a saint when you are out in public, this is a pretty major issue that is potentially indicative of some major personality disorders. Character is not only revealed in private, it is at the core of a person. Consistent kindness should be the norm, not the exception.

How to address it: Take note of the contrast, and be sure to speak up about it. Tell them that you noticed how they spoke to you once you were alone with them, and that it was hurtful to you. Their reaction to this will show you all you need to know about whether or not they truly care about your feelings.