6 Subtle Red Flags That Could Mean Your Relationship Is Doomed (3 of 4)

They are Jealous or Overly Controlling

Jealousy can be a huge warning sign, especially when it becomes possessiveness. This can look like anger or disproportionate emotions when you hangout with or spend time with others. It can also manifest as overly scrutinizing your social life and every small move you make. Trust is a non-negotiable in a relationship. If someone tries to control your interactions or isolate you from your family and friends, this is a sign of emotional abuse.

How to address it: Communicate to them why your independence is important to you. If they are receptive, it shows that they understand that personal friends and a life outside of them does not threaten your connection with them.

They Trash Talk All Their Exes

Complaining about your past partners is pretty common. But if every single ex is labeled as crazy or the negative party in the relationship, this is a red flag. This can be an indicator of this person taking a lack of accountability for their own actions. They may have a habit of blaming everyone else for their problems, or this could be an indicator of unresolved baggage. If they complain about their exes, or one in particular, very frequently, this could also mean they still have feelings for them.

How to address it: Take some time to respectfully probe why they are still focused on their ex. If they can’t take accountability, it may indicate that they will repeat the same pattern with you.