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7 Tips For Finding Mr. Right Instead of Mr. Right Now

Be honest. Back in your younger days, you were prone to dating guys just to rebel, right? Guys you swore you weren’t serious about. Maybe it was the moody guitarist in high school that you thought you could fix. Or a charming college classmate who wasn’t big into commitment, but you kept him around anyway for the “benefits.” When your friends asked you about your choices in men, you brushed it off. “Whatever. It’s not like we’re getting married. All I’m looking for is Mr. Right Now.” They all gave a nod because they knew the guys you kept bringing into your life always came with an expiration date. But as you’ve gotten older, you now realize that maybe it’s time to seek out meaningful relationships. The problem is, you’re stuck and aren’t sure how to go about it. It’s a good thing we’re around to help, right? Here are 7 ways to find Mr. Right and move past Mr. Right Now.

1. Feeling lonely? Mr. Right Now won’t fix it

The problem with loneliness is that we end up convincing ourselves that any kind of attention is good attention, even when it clearly isn’t. Repeat this phrase to yourself over and over again: Hookups aren’t the solution; they’re merely a sign of desperation. Sure, you might feel better on Saturday nights, but when Sunday morning arrives, you’ll be left feeling emptier than ever before. A shallow connection merely masks the feeling of loneliness when what you need is something that heals it.