DIY Relationship Help: 7 Therapist-Backed Tips for Couples (2 of 5)

Hold a weekly check-in, put on an actual calendar

A short, recurring check-in prevents little annoyances from metastasizing into bigger sources of resentment. Set a consistent day and time, open with things you appreciate about the relationship, and review logistics like money, chores, or scheduling. Then tackle one rough topic for just 10-15 minutes. End by confirming one small promise each of you will keep this week. This structure keeps problem-solving out of date night and gives you a predictable place to bring concerns—one of the most actionable couples therapy tips you can try today.

Learn the art of the “repair attempt”

Every great relationship has glitches; the difference is that healthy couples repair quickly. A repair attempt is any word, gesture, or pause that stops negativity from spiraling—such as a pause stating that you are getting overwhelmed, throwing in a quick joke, a hand on the shoulder, or reassurance that you care about the topic at hand. Practice naming repairs so that both of you notice them—you could say something like, “That was a repair; thank you for that.” The more repairs you recognize and accept, the faster conflicts deescalate and trust restores.