Leading with Grace: 7 Steps to Being Powerful Without Losing Yourself (4 of 5)

6. Confidence Comes from Competence

You don’t need to fake confidence if you’ve done the work. Yes, we’ve all heard the phrase “fake it till you make it,” and in some situations, it helps. But long-term confidence? That comes from preparation, humility, and the decision to keep learning.

Confidence rooted in knowledge is the kind that doesn’t crumble under pressure. It doesn’t need applause to stand tall. The more you study, practice, and maintain your curiosity, the more naturally you’ll assume your power—not with swagger, but with substance.

7. Be Unapologetically Yourself

Perhaps the most challenging and crucial truth is that you don’t need to change your shape to lead. You don’t have to mimic the loudest person in the room or mold yourself into what you think a “real leader” looks like.

You’re not “too much” or “too emotional” or “too soft.” You’re exactly enough, as you are. Your authenticity is your edge. Your lived experience is your expertise. Stop editing yourself to make others comfortable. Show up fully as you.

Because the most powerful thing you can be is real.