Breaking the Cycle of Self-Neglect: A Guide for Strong Women

We all know that one friend who is unstoppable. She meets the demands of her job, handles her family obligations flawlessly, volunteers at her kid’s school, and somehow still gets a workout in before the sun comes up. Her schedule looks like a masterclass in productivity and time management, and from the outside looking in, it appears that she has it all figured out.

But behind the polished exterior, she is dealing with another reality: self-neglect. She barely has time for herself because all of her energy is poured into those around her — her family, friends, colleagues, and the list goes on. This is all while her own needs are perpetually put on the back burner. Instead of feeling celebrated for her efforts, she ends up just running on fumes and quietly questioning why she is always so drained.

Look closer and you notice a few signs: a tired, half-smile that doesn’t reach the eyes, a schedule so packed that she forgets what it feels like to rest, and a reliance on caffeine or a glass of wine just to get through her busy week. The cycle of giving more and more and not receiving eventually bleeds into exhaustion, resentment, and sometimes even illnesses. And yet, the moment she takes a break, the guilt sets in.

Does any of this sound familiar? If so, read on to learn how you can break the cycle of self-neglect and take back your heal, joy and a true sense of self.

The Hidden Contributors of Self-Neglect

Overgiving is not just generosity gone too far. It’s often rooted in beliefs and patterns that originate as far back as childhood. Many of these actions may feel noble on the surface, but they mask deeper wounds in many cases. Here are a few of those hidden drivers that lead to these behaviors.