10 Ways to Stay Close After Your Baby Arrives (5 of 6)

8. Speak Your Needs, Clearly and Kindly

Your partner can’t read your mind, no matter how well they know you. If you need more help, more space, more affection—say it. Use “I” statements, be specific, and stay open to compromise. When you express yourself directly, you reduce resentment and give your partner the tools to love you well.

9. Create Micro-Rituals of Connection

Amidst chaos, small consistent rituals can become anchors. A shared morning stretch, a midday check-in text, or a nightly recap before bed builds stability and predictability. These routines don’t have to be big or elaborate—they just have to be consistent. They’re gentle reminders that you’re still in this together.